Everything I know I learned after I was thirty. - Georges Clemenceau
The secret of staying young is to live honestly, eat slowly, and lie about your age. - Lucile Ball
In two months, I am turning 30. The big 3-0. Dirty thirty. Flirty thirty. I'm going to make and wear a birthday crown. It's not my 'scary' birthday My 'scary' birthday was 28. Ten year high school reunion. Back when I was 18, 28 seemed so far away. So adult-ish. Twenty- eight has come and gone plus 2 years. And I still do not feel adult-ish. I have never made a list of things to do before a certain age. I am going to give it a try. 35 things to do before my 35th birthday in February 2017.
1. Decrease my possessions 2. Take a sociology class
3. Take a religion class 4. Take a photography class 5. Get a better camera 6. Frame and hang four of my pictures 7. Detox once a year 8. Move to two different states 9. Take a train ride in the US 10. Volunteer on a Board of Directors for a Park & Recreation 11. Volunteer at an animal shelter 12. Write a mission statement 13. Write a manifesto
14. Learn to drive a stickshift
15. Paint a picture
16. Learn to drive/ride a motorcycle
17. Take a road trip with my siblings
18. See the cherry blossoms in Washington DC
19. Read the bible
20. Read the quran
21. Read the torah
22. Pick peaches in South Carolina
23. Learn spanish
24. Re-learn french (I took 4 years of french classes in high school)
25. Get my TESL certificate
26. Run races in 10 different states. My ending goal is to run in all 50 states. So far: Texas, Oklahoma & Minnesota.
27. Complete a marathon
28. Bike 4 times a year in organized runs (one 100 mile ride every year)
29. Weekend trip to my birthplace in Virginia
30. Take a week long road trip in Canada
31. See the Northern Lights (aurora borealis)
and visit 32. India 33. Central America 34. South America 35. Egypt
It seems like the older I get, the faster time flies. Where did 2011 go? Seriously. Hello 2012! After getting laid off in July, I have been doing a lot of thinking about my past and my future. One life to live, I want to make it amazing. I have been thinking a lot about fulfillment lately. Adventure, challenge, athleticism, positivity, family, financial security, friendship, courage, emotions, risk-taking, flexibility and growth can all be rolled into fulfillment. When I am fulfilled, I am happier. That doesn't mean I am just going to let life happens. It means to be constantly growing and learning. To stretch myself, try new things. So, this year's resolution is based off of one word - fulfillment.
Ideas for fulfillment:
mind - read one book a week (52 books in 2012); take a class at a community school; learn spanish; visit Virginia; write my manifesto; try a new recipe once a week
body - run 15 miles a week (780 miles in 2012); run a 5k in North Carolina plus 2 other states; bike 100 miles in 8 hours; camp 4 times in 4 different parks; detox
soul - volunteer at an animal shelter; volunteer on a board of directors for a park & recreation; decrease my possessions
spirit - read the bible; learn more about buddhism
"It's no longer an exaggeration to say that middle-class Americans are an endangered species."
According to wikipedia, middle class persons commonly have a comfortable standard of living, significant economic security, considerable work autonomy and rely on their expertise to sustain themselves. If middle-class is becoming an endangered species, does this means the majority of people are going to fall into lower class? This quote makes me nervous/worried/sad. I am middle class. I have a sister in high school, what does this mean for her? For her future? I have 30 years of working before retirement, what does this mean for the next 30 years? What does this mean for my retirement savings? What does this mean during my retirement?
I went to amazing session about creating a Mission Statement. This session really 'hit home' because after getting laid-off I have really been trying to figure me out. What do I want from life? I think having a mission statement and reviewing it every 6 months is a great idea. It will help me keep on track of my goal and change it if need to.
One of my values is adventure. Every day, every road trip, trying a new restaurant - all adventures. One of the suggestions I received was to also use risk-taker and courageous to describe myself. I thought those words felt so big and powerful. The more we talked and the more I thought about it, those words do fit. I've moved to Dallas, travel to Asia for a month, moved to North Carolina without a job and living in a hotel. According to wikipedia, courage means boldness; fearlessness; the ability to confront uncertainty and risk means probability of uncertain future events. Those words fit.
Leaving this session I feel like I have a lot more confidence in myself. I am an independent agent/consultant selling a product (me). Which is really hard for me but the tools I am getting from this session and others is helping. Reading blogs like Nerd Fitness and The Impossible HQ has also been helpful because the posts are making me think about what I want from/in life.
For the last week, I have been thinking about writing a manifesto. I am hoping these sessions and blogs are the tools I need to help me understand myself, get my thoughts a little more organized and articulate what is going on in my head. Like the mission statement, having a manifesto and reviewing/re-evaluate it every 6 months to a year will help me stay on track with my goals.
This weekend I decided to explore a little bit of Charlotte, North Carolina. I need to start thinking and researching which area of Charlotte I want to get an apartment in. Thankfully the weather was warm and sunny!!
9am Alison and I went for a 3 mile run with a running group I found on meetup. There was probably about 15 runners. After the run through the neighbor, I got a chai latte at Smelly Cat Coffee House and chatted with some of the other runners. The conversation was great but the chai was a little watery and not very favorfully. Then we walked over to Jack Beagles for breakfast. Delicious!!
At noon, Alison and I got our picture taken with Santa at Pet Essential. They were so patient with Alison. She did not like Santa's white beard. I had 5 shots to choice from, two different poses. The proceeds go towards the CMPD (Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police Department) Animal Care & Control spay/neuter clinic. Then we headed over to a dog park. Alison had some nervous energy to let go of. By that time it's 2pm, time for lunch. I decided to check out Viet-Thai Noodle House on our way back to the hotel. Delicious!!! I had vegetable pho with tofu and Vietnamese coffee. The food was so good is Vietnam, I miss it. I definitely recommend this place!!
Lately I have been thinking a lot about life and where I am (& where I am not). Three months until I am thirty. Right now I am unemployed and living in a hotel. Sometime I get 'on' myself, why am I not married with kids and a house, loving husband and a job? But then I do a reality check, in the years I have been alive I have done amazing things. I have traveled to Europe twice, Asia for a month, volunteered - built homes and served food (soup kitchens and Feed My Starving Children), lived in 3 states, finished college, have an amazing dog and so much more. I am on a path I want to be on. As of right now, I am not a type of person who wants a house (or kids for that matter). I want to freedom to move and travel. Because I don't fit the 'tradional' lifestyle, I think, for me, discovering myself will take longer. I have to remind myself that life is an ongoing process, that I all keep growing and learning. Not to compare myself to my high school friend. I am unemployed right now because I got laid off and I have moved to a new state to find a job. And living out of a hotel is a like rock star-ish!!